Second chances

 

I met him

On a random day of September

When the heavy clouds were crying and screaming forcefully,

Matching the pieces of my conflicted heart.

They were like trying to express

Something,

Anything

To make their presence known so desperately,

To be heard in the stone cold silence

Enveloping the world at the moment

But it was like nobody paid attention.

Nobody even cared.

I was walking on the sidewalk alone

Passing through crowds and crowds of too busy people

Hurrying to their comforting yet lonely homes

Slightly wondering

How could I feel so broken inside,

How could I forget my own identity

Being in front of such a reckless masterpiece

Developing through my own blazing eyes.

I was mesmerized by the unspoken power of the world’s creation

Yet the life in me was slowly slipping away.

I was drown in my own selfish thoughts,

Resigned of my troubled past

And yet scared of the future,

Of life,

Of myself.

I didn’t want to admit then,

To acknowledge,

To let myself  feel

the heaviness my heart carried

for so long.

I was defeated by my own self

And thought I could never do anything to change it.

I didn’t believe in second chances at all

Because I wasn’t in some overly cheesy movie

It was such a foreign concept to me.

Perhaps that is why I felt

A pair of curious and piercing eyes staring

Intensely,

Curiously,

Utterly,

Not at me

But through my very own soul.

It was like he had the ability to fix back the pieces

Into the place they belonged

Like a lost game of puzzle

Only that the puzzle was the way to my heart.

He sparkled something in me,

He ignited a long forgotten fire into my soul

Which I didn’t know it even existed anymore

In just a couple of mere seconds.

His intimidating yet captivating aura

Instead of pulling me away from the unknown,

It only pulled me closer and deeper to each other.

It was something I never experienced before

Raw,

Pure,

Fascinating,

Different,

Simply unique.

My head was spinning

My heart was bursting out of my chest

My mind was screaming at me to just run as far as I can,

That I couldn’t stand another one

In my too long series of disappointments.

The connection and desire were so much stronger though

Putting my heart in charge of my actions and feelings

For once, I felt peaceful with myself.

We were smiling softly at each other and

The world seemed like a happy place again

Still the same burning sensation remained

And deep inside of me,

I wasn’t able to comprehend that

In a sea full of people,

He was the only one brave enough to see me

The real me.
 And suddenly,I didn’t feel alone anymore.

Living life one step at a time

Yesterday,our “Blogging 101” daily assigment was to comment on at least four blogs that spoke to us or we can relate in some kind of way.Although I connected with a lot of people and found myself in their stories and thoughts,I figured that,as today’s assigment told us to create a post based on one of the best posts I’ve stumbled upon,I should share my own thoughts and inspiration I gain from a pretty powerful and beautiful woman.

Coming across Nancy Roman’s blog which,by the way,you must take a look on because it’s so good and incredibly inspiring,was one of the moments when I realized,once again,why creating a blog myself was the wisest decision ever.I think it has to do a lot with the fact that the power,wisdom,love and pure passion which exist beyond the words,our tool of creation in this virtual world of blogging,blossoming into the posts each of us publish,can touch ,mark,empower,encourage and surprinsingly,change your train of thoughts and beliefs.The undeniable  connection between people from all over  the world I find it quite magical and even fascinating because,let’s face it,we just don’t estabilish a bound with anybody.Even with our neighbors or mutual friends is a hard work mission,which you could admit should have been far easier due to seeing the other person you interact with and discover if she/he “clicks” with who you really are.But,you see,what seems easier in the first place is very often not the answer we’ve been looking or craving for.

I must confess that I was touched and very impressed by a variety of blogs by now,mind my “newbie”status,who have this blog a little over two months,including this one I mentioned earlier above.Why? Because I discovered a couple of precious lessons,written in a funny and accesible approach,even for a 17 years old teenager like me.

Nowadays,I feel like the society we are living in strives so hardly to reach and obtain the so called “perfection” of bodies or faces (whatever that means) instead of evolving and growing spiritually or mentally,in order to truly become stronger,wiser and happier human beings.People tend to deny and refuse with any price their age,considering that being old (whatever age that means for them) will cut their chances of a well lived and valuable life.Whatever stage they find themselves in life,they feel the need to change something at them whether by crappy surgeries,dangerous and mostly unsuccessful  treatments or simply anything that could make them be young forever and ever.

Well,although the idea of living forever sounds more appealing to me rather than having the “perfect” body or face or hair,I  don’t get why don’t you just embrace who you truly are?

You can not be young forever,but you have the power to choose every single day if you want to spend your life like one.

Nancy’s post,called “The old woman I will be”speaks very loud to me and define exactly,from her perspective,that being old doesn’t mean you have to feel like one,that considering yourself chained or traped in some kind of cell,without having the power to do whatever you please or want is strongly mistaken.Age is just a number,it doesn’t define you unless you allow it.Truth is you have all the power in the world to do everything and anything,at any day,at any age,at any moment of your crazy ride called life.I,also,firmly believe that every age is a gift which brings maturity,intelligence,more beauty to your heart and soul,a better level of capacity of understanding and seeing the world we are living in,so we need to cherish and be deeply grateful for every single day.We cannot take it back.

The point is that beauty,happiness and love,the real and most intense ones,could be achieved and felt throughout your whole life.You don’t have to constantly run or chase this stereotypical and overrated perfection because it’s a pure illusion that sadly,our twisted society seems to promote these days.Don’t let you get fooled in some of life’s traps.They’re not what matter or count.
What matters the most is you.


 

An open letter to my future self

Dear future me,

   When you will read this, you will most probably have your life figured it out. But not in the way some may think, like having a slightly boring routine or uneventful days. You will hate that. Just like you are doing now.

  What I am certain about is that you will be in a complete awe of living in this world. You will fall more and more in love with everything you see, feel, discover and experience throughout your unmissable journey. Each passing day will bring something exciting, thrillingly beautiful, captivating, which will make you feel alive. Because that is why you’re put on Earth anyway. To be alive, not only to exist. That’s overrated.

  I don’t know how many years will pass until you’ll find this locked in one of your random and hopefully, not so messy drawers. I intend on printing it, just to be close to you whenever you feel like nothing is worth it. I hate to tell you this, but you will feel it at times. I can only pray to be as scarcely as possible. However, that will not bring you down, not at all. You will learn that nothing will ever have the power to tear you apart .Except yourself. You’ll figure out that later. When you’ll not be drunk. Joking…I guess.

   Life will bring you a lot of wonderful and unforgettable memories to keep you sane. Do you want to know why? Because you will create them by fighting with all your will and fierceness in achieving your goals, making your dreams become reality and living everyday as it will be your last. As a good giver,you will bring something to the world, too. Do you want to know what? Happiness. So much happiness.Your happiness will become a source of inspiration to others. Your happiness will light others’s path. Your positivity will bring out the best of you and hopefully, of the ones who will be around you,too. Why is that? Simply because you realised that happiness is the purest and most intense feeling we are blessed to experience. You always loved being happy and will do everything you can to feel it and to live accordingly.

   Better than that, you’ll help, support and encourage the people you’ll meet across your road by spreading happiness into their minds and bodies. It would not be an easy mission because you will figure out that everyone has a story, a novel written by themselves, full of challenges, beauty, lessons and perhaps inner struggles. It will bring you an unmeasurable sadness in your heart, but it will be the trigger which will motivate you further and stronger to be there for them, as well as for your own self. To show them the bright side and dissipate the one which controls and whispers that life couldn’t be happy again. It will always get better. You’ll demonstrate everyone, including yourself, that having persevering faith and hope will lead to miracles.

   Regarding meeting your soulmate or whatever will be called those days, you’ll not even worry about it. You’re tired of hearing this and certainly, you will look at happiness as a self-evolution and self-growth process, not as being head over heels over a guy who gives shitty excuses or doesn’t treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Anyway, you will never accept that. You will learn that you are enough. You are whole. You don’t need anyone to complete or to love you in pieces. That’s loads of crap. I’m so glad you learned this by now.

     Moving on, life will give you both good and unfortunate moments .You’re no exception. The way you will handle them is what truly counts here. However, you will get to look at every obstacle getting in your way as the ideal chance to learn valuable lessons and to discover hidden parts of yourself. Some of them you will never thought they even existed. You will not be scared by them. You will have a healthy and clear perspective of life and will not let it give you a hard time. You’ll see that even when times are tough, you will always have a choice to make -whether to let the pain dominate your entire being and drown you effortlessly into darkness or to rise higher from the shreds of the ground, only to become so much stronger than before. I trust you will choose wisely.

   Oh, and let me tell you about travelling. You’ll become obsessed with discovering new places, cultures, customs and getting to know what make them so special and purely different. Okay, you already were from your teenage years, but you’ll be more and more thrilled about the magnitude of the world. If that could be possible. You will travel the world, just as you wished so badly. You will gain knowledge, love, richness in thoughts, memories and of course, a one of a kind happiness. The one that consumes you and makes you feel like you’ve made it. Not by chasing money, crappy useless things but by chasing your dreams and being your true self.

You will become a wonderful, proud, ecstatic, independent, overly excited about food and planes woman. I won’t blame you for the last part,though.

You will live every day as a once in a lifetime adventure.

You will wholeheartedly love yourself. Why? Because you are all you’ve got.

You will find your path and follow it faithfully.

You’ll never be alone.

You will make it. I know you will.

 

Love,

Present Me

Who I am and why I’m here

      Who am I?

Well,I never kind of answered to this question to myself before.I mean,I heard it,I even wrote it right here,right now,but never actually thought of it in its deep and meaningful entirety.It’s one of the simplest yet the most complicated question I’ve ever face with in my life.

To start with,I can proudly say that I am the creation of God.And I feel already unique by just that,because to be loved in this unmeasurable way so as to walk on this Earth is an exquisite form of a blessing.The first blessing,along with so many others that I have the power to count and be eternally grateful for.

I am not like everybody else.Nobody is me.I am me.I am different.I am unique.I am perfectly imperfect.Oh,and guess what?I am proud of me,I still love myself and I am thankful for every flaw I have.I am beautiful and I don’t need anyone to tell me otherwise because I would never really believe them.Why?Simply because I know that every single one of us represents an one of a kind beauty.Both inside and out.That makes me smile.And at some times not,noting that not many people are aware of this incredibly powerful fact.It’s really a shame to not acknowledge your power and your beauty in the world.

I am a person,a teenage girl and I feel intensely,I see beauty wherever I take a look,I think way too much,I love madly and I experiment my life in the best way I can.It may be tough,pointless,hard,challenging sometimes,but in the end, it’s always worth it.A road could never miss obstacles or impediments,right?But it’s still the best thing ever.Thruth is we only get to live once.We should make it right.Or as right as we can.

However,seeing that the world,along with its citizens are the pure creation of the so loving God,I often tend to feel like it’s one of my inner missions to create something on my turn,while being here.Anything that make me truly feel happy,content,satisfied,powerful and give me a positive and undeniable energy.So that’s when I began writing.Firstly,through my little diary I’ve received as a Christmas gift from my beautiful mom,I began developing my not so known back then interest.Slowly,but surely,it became a passion,which I could never replace or get rid of.It gave my soul power to speak,wings to fly and a voice,full of confidence,ready to be heard.Something so rarely met.Now,as it became one of my greatest passions,I felt like I could learn so much more by creating a blog.My blog.A blog of anything and everything.I haven’t even categorized in into a certain type,simply because I haven’t found one that could describe me or my twisted personality.I don’t think it exists.Nevertheless,this isn’t what matters the most.

My goal by entering this exciting and thrilling world of blogging was to inspire myself by inspiring the others around me.I wanted and still wholeheartedly want to inspire joy,beauty,positiveness and an immense love through my posts and sayings.This way,I am able to grow and develop myself into a better and so much happier person each day.It brings me an infinite happiness just realizing that I was brave enough to break my walls of uncertainty,create this blog and make my dreams,aspirations and goals alive.

I hope to achieve what I’ve got on my mind and so much more,to dream on endlessly,with my eyes open and to make every day of my beautiful life count by loving and living fully.

Why you must love yourself at all times

  “Love yourself.” A relatively simple statement,with a hint of advice,which was heard,seen and written by every single one of us at least once.Nothing new until now.However,reflecting on this and even analyzing this quite overrated yet extremely uplifting quote,I began actually thinking about how many out there have the ability to understand it,too?

  Do you truly understand the unspoken power of this statement?

   If someone is telling you this one day,how could you put it in practice if you did not feel and acknowledge it yourself first?

    How could you feel it?

    How could you know the way to forcefully love yourself?

A lot of questions are dancing in my mind at the moment but despite its massive importance into our lives,I must confess love is strongly missunderstood,mistaken or simply unrecognizable at times.This thought saddens me a little,as I’ve come to realize that self love is slowly,but surely slipping away from our minds,souls and bodies.

A lot of people these days have the tendency to run,almost all their lives,to a better,improved and happier life by constantly chasing their “true needs” in order to feed their undeniable and always starving ego.Their ego dictates for them what to do,what to obtain,what to become.Their damn ego damages and eventually,destroys them,piece by piece,without even knowing.Their consent and acceptance is mostly not acknowledged,but felt through their limited actions.People forget to actually love themselves.Perhaps they didn’t ever try it for once.Why?Fear,tragedy,insecurities,personal experiences..I believe I could go on and on.The fact is that even if the causes are endless,so are the results.

But in the end, loving yourself is the best thing you have the power to do.Always.Regardless anything.

Listen to me,it’s not that hard.Actually,it’s not hard at all.Everything that make you deny this belief is just stuck in your head from the wrong perceptions,thoughts and false sayings you heard somewhere,printed into your head and heart and let them drown you effortessly.

Set your body,mind and soul free from negativity.

Every single one of us is put into this world for a reason.We are different,special and unique in our own crazy way.And that’s great.That is,in fact,the real beauty of all.To be unique in your looks,character,mind,heart and soul.

   Nobody is like you.

   You are infinite.Treasure this every second.

So,loving yourself doesn’t seem so damn difficult now,huh?

Let me tell you,the process of loving yourself includes three esential lessons that you must discover and truly understand throughout your journey.I do not count them as steps or something that could lead you thinking as being some sort of a guideline or even an “instructions” book.There is no such thing as that.As I said,everyone is different so their way of learning,growing and realizing things is not the same as yours.

  1You need to learn to accept yourself.

And by yourself ,I mean absolutely everything that defines you.Your body and every flaw that comes with it,your spirit,your bright mind,your beautiful and complicated thoughts,your messy inner feelings,your qualities and defects,as well as your moral values that you stand by and represent who you really are.These are your fingerprints that you left on this world.

Therefore, you have no reason to ever wish you were in another person’s skin or body:a much lighter one,with less freckles,without scars or even no imperfections at all.This bullshit is overrated.And nonexistent.

You are beautiful in your own way and nobody have the right to make you believe otherwise.

You are one of a kind.

I always liked comparing ourselves,humans,to birds flying high in the sky.Whenever I see them being so free,happy,adventurous,full of life and perhaps careless,I smile.Why? Because I know that we ought to be like that,too.We’re supposed to integrate and accept the twisted reality we are living in,forgetting about what we truly want,need or crave.It’s really a shame we don’t see that the only thing we must accept entirely is ourselves.

  2. In order to love yourself deeply,you need to find and value your self worth.

You must respect yourself enough to know that you deserve the very best.Treat yourself properly and say everytime you look at your reflection in the mirror “Today is beautiful.I have the power to do anything.” Empowering yourself is worth it,just like you are.

  Do you ever look up to the stars at night?Like really look up and try to notice their greatness and magic they truly hold? Not many people are able to see the beauty and significance beyond them.Well,you know what,I firmly believe we are like stars.Small,slightly usual at the first sight,but incredibly powerful,magical and unique as you look a little closer.You see? Different yet the same.

Value your authencity and individuality because there’s nothing more beautiful than this.

    3.  Last but not least,be you.Always&forever.

 Don’t change for anything or anyone,dear,unless is for becoming a better version of youself.Be whoever you want to be,do whatever you want to do,love everything that make you feel content and count on your power,knowledge and fierceness through it all.

     Oh,and in the meantime,love yourself more and more every single day.

Loud thoughts about silence 

Recently,I’ve found randomly a quote which truly got me thinking and looking for its real meaning.It said something like “When words are not enough,silence screams.” Kidding,it’s something I just made up now.Either way,I want to talk a little bit about it.

I mean,nowadays,people don’t quite know how to behave in front of silence.Or may I say,in front of a silent answer.Instead of trying to understand it,they tend to become defensive and automatically feel rejected,hurt or even disappointed by it.Earnestly,I could not blame them.I may sometimes felt in the same way without truly realizing.

     The truth is that silence is an answer,too.Perhaps the most conclusive,weighty and valid we could receive in life.Whether it’s about a relationship between two people,like friendship and most likely,love or a sign you’ve been waiting but never showed up,we could be in the situation when the expected,like calling,texting,showing up at your doorstep becomes the unexpected,which,in this case,is getting silence in return.We get treated with silence in life.The hard,cold and damn silence.

          But why does silence is regarded as such a bad thing?

         Everyone has their own inner silence,which isn’t expressed,exposed or even thought of in its entirety.In your vulnerability,your thoughts are flying,your feelings are most likely jumbling,your heart is hammering into your chest,but you are silent.Even when you feel like screaming on the inside due to an unfortunate event in your life,you remain silent.Doesn’t that feel better than actually saying out loud? Yes,it does.

     I believe that silence is the wisest’s man weapon.Why is that? Simply because that’s when he realizes that words are nothing as silence.They are powerful,but not as strong as silence.It hears so much louder than words could ever be.Also,let me tell you,words could easily be twisted in any shape in order to be that one answer you’ve been dying to hear but you could as easily figure out if they are authentic or not,while silence is always a constant.You could never change silence into something wicked,evil,hurtful.It holds a tough facade,I’m aware of that,but,nevertheless,it is so much better to receive silence rather unmeaning,pointless and false promises.Let’s admit it.

 

As a wise man once said,”The one who could not understand your silence will never be able to understand your words.”- Elbert Hubbard

An introspection through the books I read

2015 is flying by and although a sense of nostalgia and melancholy envelops me in these last days, I am sure that I am about to end a beautiful, inspiring and important chapter of my own book. I learned a lot, loved a lot, lived fully and loved every second. It surely and completely holds a big part in my heart and soul, because it was, also, the year when I decided I wanted to do more things for myself. I had a strong desire to know me better, to discover my true identity and to find answers to my own complicated and questions.So,I read. A lot. From iconic and classics like “Wuthering Heights” to a bunch of psychological and self-development books,which truly made me evolve spiritually, mentally and emotionally in a way I couldn’t imagined.

I am grateful for all the memories and I proudly admit that these incredibly poweful books I get to discover piece by piece have expanded my horizons of thinking,feeling and seeing the world I am living in.I realized that nothing,absolutely nothing is impossible if you believe and fight with your whole being for it.The road could be difficult, challenging,unsure, unpredictable, but worth every sacrifice. Hope you’ll see this one day.

So, focusing on the books I had the absolute pleasure to read throughout this year, let me tell you some of them which are totally worth reading at least once. Buckle up, they’re not few.

     “Maitreyi” by Mircea Eliade –Actually, it is the first book I’ve started 2015 with.The reason? High school.

Okay, I know what you’re all thinking right now, high school books are boring, useless and clearly annoying. We do not have much time to read them entirely and the pressure which exists due to a test paper or class listening often gets a hold on us. The perception that have been created nowadays which says that these kind of books are worthless and are given to us mostly to make our lives more miserable is strongly met at everyone my age.I understand it, I sometimes identify with it, but the fact is that it is not always the case.

I discovered in “Maytreyi” a captivating, fascinating, intense and real love story between two simple people, but whose emerging relationship was always blocked and impended by prejudices and cultural differences. It all seemed pointless, like their love will never be able to blossom or even be possible. Who would have thought that an English and typical engineer like Alan could have one of the most beautiful women from India like Maitreyi? They didn’t match, had total opposites backgrounds and the world just didn’t was on their side.

The thing that I truly loved was the irony of fate. Their love was born from hate, disgust and repugnance. Crazy to see that the person you believe you’ll never want to have in your life could become an essential part of you and to observe how their resistance towards each other pulled them closer and eventually turned into a consuming,inevitable and everlasting love.

     Although the ending was neither cliché nor happy, I knew that their bound could never be broken by anything. Not even by death.

     “Wuthering Heigths” by Emily Bronte -certainly, one of the best and most intriguing books I’ve ever had the pleasure of reading.I had heard so many controversial things about it, so many conceptions and thoughts that I knew I had to try it myself.

Being an iconic book, I highly doubt you didn’t read it by now. For those who don’t though, let me tell you is about an unfinished yet consuming, powerful, dramatic and intense love between two unfortunate lovers, Heatcliff and Catherine Earnshaw. We get to live and envision this one of a kind story from the eyes of Mr. Lockwood ,the novel’s narrator. He is also,a witness of the events of the book because he began his storytelling by moving to Thruscross Grange, a quiet and peaceful place where he met the main characters of his creation.

Both with a wild soul, Catherine loses all her senses when she meets Heatcliff. Same as Romeo and Juliet, the two of them end up dying from love, leaving behind a lot of questions and contradictory feelings for the fascinated readers.

The relationship between Heatcliff and Catherine breaks all the barriers of love and mentalities imposed by those times. The exceptional novel easily stands out from the other masterpieces through the weight of suffering and misery that the two partners endure but especially because their emotions and inner feelings were exposed through fierceness,cruelty, violency and pain.

Their love turned out to be destructive, but totally worth discovering and feeling it with passion.

PS: It’s worth watching the ecranisation of this masterpiece from 1939. It really put me into perspective and I loved it, but not as much as the book itself.

       “The call of the wild” by Jack London -I don’t know if I had a deeper connection with any other book than I had with this one. I read it at least twice and I loved it more and more every time.

Firstly, I was stunned by its authenticity, realism and naturalism. As the title subtly suggests, the story is centered on one of the most beautiful forms of love that exists: the one between a dog, Buck and a human, his savior, Jack Thornton. Being an animal lover, I think it’s one of the reasons this book got to me so easily.

From the moment Buck is kidnapped from his lord’s home, he knew his life will never be the same. Living life like a spoiled and well treated dog will no longer exist.

The series of adventures, tragedies and events of Buck’s life after that unfortunate incident made me fell hopelessly in love with this book. Even when he met his savior, Jack who established such a strong and unbreakable bound between the two of them, Buck felt that he couldn’t ignore anymore the wilderness’s calling, finally leaving the civilisation behind.

     “A new life in ten days” by Paul McKenna – An eye-opening book,the first one of self-development and psychological that I read this year. I wasn’t dissapointed. It’s so good.

It puts a lot of emphasis on the inner you,on your inner feelings, thoughts and struggles.
It’s a book you won’t regret reading. I can tell you won’t be able to put it down from your hands.

I learned so many precious lessons, I found answers to my endless series of questions and I figured out what life is truly about.

One of them, with a significant importance, certainly is how could you be successful and obtain that sense of fulfillment in your life? Well, in order to become one, you have to believe it with all your being. You have to know you are worth it and you really matter. Also, it is absolutely necessary you have an inner balance between your body, mind and soul. Success doesn’t exist without feeling truly happy, content and peaceful with yourself.

One of the best lessons I’ve learned so far is that the true wealth of life is the one that comes from the inside, accumulated through lovely and priceless experiences with your beloved ones. If you allow your mind, body and soul to feel and be aware of all of them, you’ll made it because you have discovered the total, pure and sincere happiness. Don’t lose it.

You decide how you want to spend your life. 

Besides these wonderful books, I would highly recommend you a few others, including:

  • “10 interesting things about human behaviour” – Suzanne Davis
  • “Always know what to say” – Peter Murphy
  • “Change as opportunity” – Ralph Bruksos
  • “Dress for success” – Jenny Coo-Wu
  • “Everyday Karma” – Carmen Harra 

17 things I learned while being 17

Being a teenager could be in a lot of ways,but certainly isn’t as easy as we were told or as we dreamed about when we were younger.Although the desire to grow up faster could be seen at almost every child in the world,this conception is,in reality,missunderstood.We often have the feeling or even a random thought that sparkles in our minds which tells us that perhaps,by growing up,we will receive the freedom of choice we crave or believe we want to.Looking back to our childhood days,we sadly realise that this is not as true as we initially thought.Being fully responsible and aware of our actions and feelings is hardly portrayed as a craving.It is most likely to feel scared of actually being in control and that could lead you to a full series of mistakes,in your search of doing,as most people like to call,”the right thing to do”.Truth is the right thing does not exist.It is actually what your heart and soul tell you through your inner voice.Find it and listen to it more often.

Being a grown up teenager,at the age of 17 surely is challeging.And scary.And provoking.And damn difficult.Either way,it is earnestly beautiful to discover ourselves in the natural process of growing and even if we face new lessons every day,some of them in the hard way through unpleasant or marking experiences,we still need to make the best of it.

It is truly important to acknowledge the fact that life is crazily and unexpectedly beautiful.Life means happiness,fulfillment and an inner peace which they are not so easy to find due to our minds that refuse to let us evolve,change,think and feel whatever the hell we need to.

However,here are a few of the most precious lessons I’ve learned throughout my crazy ride called life that I hope you will consider:

  1.      People,feelings and places are temporary.People leave,feelings go away,places change.The funny part of all is that everything happens in the blink of an eye.They are surely not the easiest parts of life and everyone has different ways to cope with the pain and fear of acceptance that occur,but in the end,you have to let it go.Pain is one of the hardest,if not the hardest feeling in the world.I like to believe it holds,the same as the other feelings we get to experience,a good side,the one which make us realize that it is for the better.Things get better in time.Have faith.
  2.      Speaking of change,remember that change is good.So good.I saw and met so many people who were reticent and terrified of changing something in their lives.They live with the belief that they are content with what they’ve got in that moment and pretend they don’t need anything else,missing out and neglecting the beautiful,inciting and inspiring things which could knock on their doorstep any minute.Change is often associated with the same old feeling:fear.Too often and certainly,too wrong.How would it be if you could have the power to replace the fear that you let to dominate you with excitement and see change as an opportunity to develop,grow and discover yourself? Well,guess what,that power is right there,in yourself.Wouldn’t it be better to step out of your comfort zone once in a while and accept change as a way of experimenting your dreams,aspirations or even your craziest ideas,like going on a road trip in the middle of the night.It’s up to you.
  3.     Things don’t always work out.Or must I say,don’t go in the same way you wanted,hoped or imagined to.I guess that this is a perfect chance to focus on what’s working right.Right?
  4.     It’s okay to cry once in a while.It’s okay to be sad.It’s okay to acknowledge your feelings and treat them with an equal importance,because they are a massive part of who you are.Don’t neglect them,don’t hide them from yourself.Just make sure once you stop crying or hurting,it will never be for the same reason in the future.
  5.     Collect moments,memories,life changing experiences,not things.I’ve came to realize that they are all that matter in life.They make you who you are.Things are more useless than you believe.They have the power only to give you a temporary and mostly,a misleading sense of contentment and happiness,while the memories you create will last a lifetime and will make you the happiest human alive.Don’t let you get fooled by life’s traps.
  6.      Be positive.It’s an essential trait that has the absolute power to transform your life into a happy one.It’s one of the essential lessons I’ve learned,too.No matter what you’re going through,try and learn that being positive will eventually make you feel better and give a clearer view of what you have to do next.Find something good in everything you have or experience,especially in the bad ones that seem they could not have a happy ending.You may never know the true power of positivity until you try it yourself.
  7.    “Who needs daggers when you have words?” This quote totally proves my point.Honestly,words are incredibly powerful.Sometimes,they are even more painful than you could ever imagine.Be very careful and aware of what you are saying to others,no matter if they are close to you or just random strangers on the street.
  8.     Take chances.Every single one.Both good and bad.Who knows where they could lead you?
  9.    Push constantly your boundaries.Challenge yourself and never say no to an adventure that could change and also,shape you into a better and happier person.That’s what life is truly about.
  10.      Many of us experience lack of confidence during this challenging period of transition and growth.I’ve learned that it is so wrong firstly,for ourselves and then,for the people around us.Let me tell you why.Being confident could be one of the hardest things to be.It’s neither a constant nor a permanent feeling.It should be though.Also,confidence builds gradually in time,as you evolve and as you obtain a sense of maturity that tells you that it is your strongest quality.Let me tell you,it is not as easy as it is to just say this,but once you develop your self-acceptance and self-love for your flaws and frankly,for who you really are,you will see that being confident is the strongest “weapon”  you can ever have.
  11.     Since I was a child,I had an answer,always the same,for the question”What do you want to do when you grow up?”.I would simply say that ” I want to be happy.” Nothing less,nothing more.As years passed by,I’ve came to see that we live to be happy.So,be happy.It is so easy.Look around you.Find happiness in every single thing,no matter how small it may seem to you.To be happy is a blessing.Acknowledge it,treasure it and make sure that whatever you want to achieve,to do and to become in the future will give you this unique feeling in return.
  12.    I  always was so passionate and fond of travelling.Perhaps I didn’t exactly know the true meaning behind my utter excitement every time I went somewhere new and unfamiliar when I was a little girl,but now I know.The unforgettable memories I gain from travelling the world are what make me,spiritually,so rich.It isn’t a bigger pleasure in life than this.Travel the world and discover the beauty beneath the simplest things.Make your soul happy.Trust me,you will not regret it.
  13.     Another quality that I’ve discovered which holds so much importance and greatness in my life is kindness.No matter where your life is heading to,don’t forget to be kind.Kind to yourself and kind to others who may not be as fortunate as you.We are all the same.
  14.      Always,always be grateful.For everything.Be thankful that you are alive,have a beating heart,a family,a few close friends and a fierce willingness to do big and incredible things in life.Don’t ever forget it.
  15.     Unfortunately,bad days exist,too.And they suck.Whether it’s a bad hair kind of day,bad mood or anything else,you can do nothing but learn to accept and eventually,go over it.It doesn’t mean it’s a bad life.
  16.     Love yourself forcefully,deeply and unconditionally.Stop comparing to others,stop judging,just stop feeling worthless only because your nose is a little longer,your cheeks are not as prominent as you’d like or you can’t stand your freckles.That is,in reality,what makes us all unique in our own way.Learn that different is beautiful,so damn beautiful.Focus instead on developing into the best version of yourself.Please.
  17.     Laugh hard.Laugh until it hurts and you literally can’t breathe.It’s one of the greatest joys in life.And guess what? It’s free.